Fostering Friendships

Fostering Friendships

If I’m being completely honest, the one type of relationship I struggle most with are my friendships. It’s not for a lack of amazing people – there are many wonderful people in my life that I love to call my friend. But it’s fostering these deep friendships and being intentional on helping them grow that is my personal struggle.

And is just me, or is making new friends harder than dating?! Unfortunately, I’m not in the second grade anymore and can’t walk up to someone on the playground and ask, “Will you be my friend?” I can see people getting genuinely creeped out with me if I did that!

My husband has listened to me cry over lost friends. He has heard me share my struggles about having the kind of relationships I use to have in and right out of high school.

What happened?

Kids. Marriage. Ministry. Life. Myself.

I let these excuses get in the way of having the kind of friendships God wanted me to have.

In the book of John, chapter 15:12-13, Jesus says, “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.”

?This is my commandment, that you love  one another as I have loved you.-

Jesus demonstrated genuine love for others, He asked us to do the same. Jesus made time for people. He chose 12 men to walk closely with and chose 3 of those men to be even closer with. They ate together and they prayed together. They were friends. Jesus built relationships by intentionally setting aside time for others.

We are to do the same.

Last Saturday on my blog, my friend Jennifer Moye talked about the lie that moms are too busy to have friends. I get it. I have a full time job, lead a team at church on the weekends, have children and a husband and I need to spend time with God and take some time to myself. But if Jesus made the time for friendships, let’s take His example.

It’s time to foster some friendships, are you with me?

Prayer: Heavenly Father, thank you for the gift of friendship. Please help me be a good steward of my time to be able to make time for genuine relationships like Jesus did. Thank you. Amen!

Discussion: What are some ways you have made new friends or made time for old friends?


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  1. merrycarr05

    Yes! Love this, and it’s so true–forming friendships only seems to get harder with time…but we also need those relationships and community more than ever when our life is full with kids, family, work, life pressures, etc.! Thanks for this reminder to focus on fostering those important relationships!

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  2. Meg Weyerbacher

    This has been a struggle for me as well. I am praying God helps me out of the funk I fall into sometimes, and helps me to see there’s life in healthy friendships, not something to be nervous about. Being an introvert, I tend to think, “Ah, I’m okay,” but we were made for relationship!!! Lord, help me- help us all to learn to reach out more in love, and please bless our efforts!
    In Jesus name, Amen. God bless you, Chelsey dear – your words are always a help to me.

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