I’m amazed to say that my husband and I have been married for only 9 short months. In this amount of time we have played and we have fought. We have laughed and cried (well, I have done most of the crying). We have experienced great joy and many struggles – in only 9 months.
I thought I was well-prepared for this union with pre-marital counseling, books, and the best Book of all: The Bible. But in truth, nothing could have prepared me for the extreme gift and hard work that marriage is. And I sure seem to mess it up, already.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
I was once told by a pastor to replace the words “Love” in this passage with my name to see if I truly show God’s love. If you have never done this before – I encourage you to try it. It is so humbling.
God entrusted me with being a helpmate to my husband. I need to love him and support him. It really shouldn’t be so hard – but the thing is, it is hard! Because even though I should love God first, then my husband second, there is someone who always seems to get in the way: Me.
The times I struggle with my marriage is when I am focused on my wants and needs rather than God’s design for my marriage. The only time I’m successful in my marriage, is when I show my husband the love God intended for us.
A kind of love that doesn’t bring up past mistakes. A patient kind of love. A kind of love that endures everything. It can conquer all. That kind of love is the only kind that can make my marriage marvelous.
I pray this over my marriage, and I also pray this over yours. If you are not married, I pray this over whatever relationship God may lead you to in the future.
Prayer: Heavenly Father, please continue to have Your Holy Spirit guide me in how to love my husband. Help me be unselfish and love him like You love us. In Jesus’s Name, Amen.
Discussion: What are some ways you have been able to love your husband like God loves us?
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