February – the month of love. While this may excite some people, others who are single this time of year don’t always find that same excitement. Trust me – I was there once. This is why I want to dedicate this post to my single friends and speak to them on some amazing things you can do right now in your singleness. So here are 4 Things to Do While You’re Single:
- Date God – This is something that you will hear my husband speak about a lot – Dating God. Think about this with me: When you are dating someone, you have to spend time with them to get to know them, right? You don’t just fall in love with them based on a vague online profile of them, “Tall, dark hair, likes long walks on the beach.” While that might drawn you in, you have to take the time to get to know their character and their heart before you really fall for them – and you can’t just do that by only spending an hour with them a week. The same is true with God. We can’t expect to fall in love with God and get to know Him by spending time with Him and hour a week at church on Sundays. We have to talk to Him daily (prayer) and listen to His responses to us (reading the Bible), and get to know His family (other believers). While you are in your singleness, this is the perfect time to date God – because not only will you grow in your relationship with Him, but you will find out the kind of person He wants you to be with. Also, your future husband will not always be able to meet all of your needs. You can’t expect Him to fill your heart the way only God can, that’s why a strong relationship with Him is so important.
- Pray for Your Future Spouse – You may not know who you will end up with, but God does! I challenge you to start praying for your future spouse that God had envisioned for you. Pray for his spiritual and physical health. Pray for his family. It may seem weird, but I can tell you that this is something I put into practice before I met Wade and I know many women who continue to do this. Just because you don’t know him, doesn’t mean you don’t love and care about for the person in your future. And God will listen!
- Become the Person You Want Your Spouse to Be – Let’s say your perfect kind of man 1. Goes to church every week, 2. Prays and reads The Bible every day, 3. Is patient, 4. Is a hard worker (these are just examples, your list may be different). But what if you struggle with these things yourself? It wouldn’t be very fair to expect your future spouse to live up to these standards if you can’t meet them. That is why being single is the perfect time to work on yourself and become the kind of person you know you can be. Trust me, I know we all have imperfections – I still struggle with things myself that I expect out of my husband, like being patient for instance. But I encourage you – this is a great time to grow and learn!
- Have Fun – This is so important! I have had a few friends who were so focused on finding a boyfriend, that they were miserable and couldn’t have fun. For a period of my life, before I came to know Christ, that was my story as well. This is hurtful in many ways, mostly because God needs to be our sufficiency. This is the time to serve God fully and spend time with friends. Listen and ask God what his plan for you in his singleness and ENJOY it.
Scripture says, “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need.” (Matthew 6:33). Remember that God is all you need during this time, and He has a plan for you in your singleness! Spend this time with Him and prepare yourself for the future He has planned for you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single, you are great just the way you are and God can use you in so many ways!
Prayer: Father, thank you for a time of singleness. Thank you that we can take this time and get to know You better. Please help me remember that you are my sufficiency and you will bless me with the things I need. I thank you in advance for the plans you have in my life, for I know they are good. Amen!
Discussion: If you are married, what did you enjoy about your single time? If you are single, talk about some of the things God has done in your singleness.