“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” Proverbs 31:25. If you are a woman who highlights in your Bible – this verse is probably highlighted. This is a slogan verse for women everywhere, one of our favorite verses out of the beautiful Proverbs 31 chapter that is about women of faith. I really wanted to take a moment and reflect on it and think about what this really means. Am I really clothed in strength and dignity? Do I laugh about the future? Sometimes – not so much. But this is the type of woman that I long to be.
Let me dig into this a little bit further…
Strength – There are period in our life where we all deal with fear, brokenness, weakness. Thankfully, we don’t have to do this alone. My favorite verse when I became a Christian was in Isaiah 41:40, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” This verse really spoke to me because I was in a really broken part of my life. I struggled with my self-worth and had a broken heart from a broken past. But I wanted the outside world to see me as a strong person so I became prideful. I had to learn through some very hard lessons that pride is not the same as strength. Now, when I am feeling down and week – I lean on God for my strength and His is all I need.
Dignity – Let’s talk about our self-respect and self-worth. Women in particular struggle with this the most. When we see magazines and television telling us what we are supposed to look like and do and say and how to act, it’s hard to be respectful of ourselves and our own self worth. Society says it’s okay for women to sleep with men who they aren’t married to – even if we deserve so much more than that. Society says that you need to be a size 2 to be beautiful so women hurt themselves to try to reach that image – when we know ALL women are beautiful. Who are we really? We are children of God and so precious to Him. He loves you just the way you are. If our Father, the Creator of ALL THINGS loves us the way we are – shouldn’t we love ourselves?
Laugh at the days to come – The woman King Solomon was talking about in Proverbs did not fret about the future. Lately, I haven’t been doing the best job at this. For example, Jude is supposed to start Kindergarten this fall (actually he could’ve started last fall but that is a whole different story). I have been struggling with freaking about this – are we doing private or public? Can we afford private? How do I get him signed up? What if we make our decision too late? Maybe you don’t have young children anymore, but does any of this sound familiar? Questions running through your head and making you sick when it’s really in God’s hands and not going to happen for quite awhile! Matthew 6:24 says, “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
The good news in all of this reflection is this: I think that we can really be this kind of woman the stronger our relationship gets with God. Yes, we will falter because we are human, but we can be strong women of self-worth and not worry about the future. I may not know you but I do know you are beautiful, because you are a child of God. You are strong because you have His strength to lean on and the Holy Spirit has the power to give you peace.
Prayer: Father God, thank you for strength, dignity and laughter. I may not have perfected these things, Lord, but I know You have and you are willing to help me when I need Your strength. Thank you for reminding me of who I am, Your child who You love dearly. And thank you for always being in control so I do not have to worry about tomorrow. Help me in these things Lord, so I can be the person You made me to be and I can be a blessing to those around me. Amen.
Discussion: If you are willing to get personal with me, which one of these three points do you feel you struggle with the most? Mine is definitely worrying about the future.